Monday, January 11, 2010

The Mother That I Am

Lorie at The Shewbridges of Celebration, Fl tagged me for a really special Meme.  To complete this tag, I must share 5 experiences that helped shape me into the mom I am today, and tag 5 other moms I admire.

1.  I think the number one experience that's shaped me into the Mom I am today would have to be my childhood.  My parents were very young and I'd like think that they did the best they could, but I want my kids to have a better life than I did.  And I'm not even talking about material things, because I can't remember ever wanting for anything.  I want them to feel special and loved beyond measure.  I want to experience things with them and prepare them for life.

2.  When I was growing up, I played house...a lot.  I created a little house in our backyard and I think the family dog played the roll of my husband.  It was always my dream to get married and have a family.  I even named my future children....Paige and Penelope.   Funny....I never dreamed of having a boy.

3.  My first time that I had friends having babies was a powerful time in my life.  My friend Anne had her first baby and I was able to experience her pregnancy with her.  Watching Bryson grow from a baby to a toddler taught me so much and I love that kid like he's my own.  A few years later, both of my best friends (and my boss) were pregnant at the same time.   Even though I was struggling with infertility...I was so incredibly happy for them and when Anne was in labor with Coby, I watched Bryson and then brought him to the hospital to meet his baby brother for the first time.  This may have been when I decided that my marriage was in serious trouble and I needed to get out.  I wanted the family that Anne and Tim had...

4.  In 2005, I had a miscarriage.  Right before we left for our honeymoon trip to Disney World, we had an ultrasound and they couldn't find a heartbeat.  They told me to come back after our trip because it might be too early but I knew.  It was torture to be at The Happiest Place on Earth and know that my baby was gone.  I couldn't get Calvin to understand that I it Mother's Intuition.  It's a gift we all have and it taught me to listen closely to my gut.

5. April 20, 2006....the day my life changed forever.  The experience of giving birth to my darling baby boy and then holding him for the first time was the most amazing experience of my life.  Bringing our little bundle of joy home, caring for him and creating our family has given me more joy and purpose than I could have ever hoped for.   Watching my kids grow is the most amazing blessing.

And now....Five Amazing Mothers!

Liz at Sugarplum Creations
Monica at  Moon Over Maize
Jen at Harried Mom of Four 
Vivienne at The V-Spot 
Beth at Manic Mother

P.S.  I hit a MAJOR milestone in my weight loss journey today!


  1. Just when I was scratching my head, wondering what in the heck I could possibly post about, and here you are with the most recently added post on my blog roll. 'Tis kismet I tell ya.

    I will ponder this one.

    I love your 5 experiences. I could not imagine trying to be happy at Disney with that turmoil going on. You're sure blessed now, right?

  2. Thanks for thinking of me, Connie. I, too, was thinking "gosh, it's been a few days since I've posted. Hmmm, what to write". I'll have to give this some thought, but what a special meme! Loved finding out even more about you. I can't imagine what you were going through during your vacation.

  3. I'm sorry you miscarried. And it's sad that you had to try to be happy on your honeymoon while knowing that.

    And you are so right about your life changing forever when you have kids. It IS amazing!

  4. That is a really special meme.

  5. Miscarriage and Mickey Mouse? No beuno! How far along were you? I can't even imaging going through that!

  6. We all must have the bloggy doldrums because I too, am very happy to have a blog topic now! Thank you very much for thinking of me!

    I love your 5 - very special memories that have shaped you into the wonderful mother I know you are. Thank you for sharing :)

  7. Those are some beautiful moments that shaped you into the great person you are today.

  8. What moving moments in your life! Can't wait to check out this milestone!!

  9. What special memories Connie. I know that you are an awesome mommy and your kids are so lucky that you have been through so many things that make you the person that you are today!

    Congratulations on the weight loss!


  10. Terrific post -- so heartfelt and honest. Thanks for sharing all these with us.

  11. I think our childhoods have a PROFOUND effect on how we parent. What a great gift you are giving your children in giving them such a precious childhood!

  12. Connie,
    I knew I was right in picking you.
    Your post touched my heart, and brought tears to my eyes. I know it has been such a long time, but I am so sorry for your loss of your baby. I understand how it feels to have a miscarriage, but not to have to know it and go off and be on your honeymoon - I'm so sorry!
    Your children are so blessed to have you as a mother and will grow up strong and loved.
    I cannot wait to visit the 5 moms you tagged. I know Beth already & totally agree with you, she is an outstanding mother!

  13. You're an awesome Mother! (and such a dear friend)

    I need to get my stuff together and start blogging. I need to find a good groove otherwise I get off track way to easily.


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