Friday, April 3, 2009

I am Mommy...Hear Me Cry!

My fellow Mommies.....I come to you today in the midst of a Mid Life Crisis. It would seem that the circumstances of the last few years are beginning to catch up with me and I have no choice but to seek professional help.

Giving birth to 2 adorable children in less than eleven months, being a stay at home mom whilst raising these children and the amount of wine, chocolate, coffee and french fries that is required to survive the last three years has taken it's toll on my poor wrinkled, flabby 38- year old body.

I hold it together most of the time but there are times when my husband walks in the door after a long day to find one kid screaming, one kid crying and me crumbled in the corner... rocking and whispering to myself *help is coming help is coming*.

On top of all of that, we have the issue of my health. It's not good people. I've been overweight for a long time and I know that this is my last chance to tackle this problem before I hit the big 4-0 and menopause sets in and everything starts to go down hill fast. I have this reoccurring dream....I am slim and fit and I'm running along a beautiful road with mountains all around me, the wind is blowing through my hair and I feel so free! I long to be fit and healthy...and to run!

It has come down to a couple of choices.....continue on this path of mass destruction and obtain a prescription for Xanax. Or take control of my life FINALLY and make some serious changes that will not only benefit me, but also my family.

One path lands me as a guest on Dr Phil, the other on Oprah.

I know from experience and watching The Biggest Loser that real success in losing weight and being healthy requires that you not only work hard through diet and exercise but that you work on the inside. I know that I want to be the best Wife and Mother I can be only way for me to do that is to have my head on straight.

My sister is a massage therapist in Dallas and she has taught me the benefits of massage and relaxation on a mother. Decreased anxiety (so I don't need Xanax), better sleep quality, more energy, increased concentration and less fatigue. All of these things are important in the life of a mother of two small children who spend all day fighting and crying and yanking on my pant leg.

Which brings me to the reason for this part of my extreme makeover I am entering a contest to be the Sego Lily Mind Body Spa's official blogger. I want this chance to be an example of how Mothers need to take care of themselves so that they can better take care of their families. I strongly believe that regular spa treatments should be mandatory for all women but especially for those of us that stay at home day after day caring for small children.

Here are some of the items from Sego Lily's Spa Menu that I think would be beneficial.

Detoxifying Seaweed Wrap....for elimination of toxins.
Native American Body Balancer...healing synergy helps to purify and cleans the body.
Herbal Cellulite Treatment....reveals a firmer, more textured skin.
Soothing Soak...precious refuge from daily stressors.
Rocky Mountain Stone Massage...promotes sense of well-being, comfort and healing.
Signature for your skin so that when the kids suck the life out of you it doesn't show on your face.
Indulgence Pedicure....who doesn't love pretty feet?
Bikini wax....feel more confident while wearing a swim suit.

If a mother is well rested, has ample energy and is experiencing the healing benefits of bodywork then she will in turn be able to do her job better and the children will ultimately reap the rewards. I want a better life for me and my family. I want to thrive!

Ladies....we are the heart of our homes. We teach, comfort, discipline, love, nurture and fight for our families. Isn't time that we do the same thing for ourselves?

My plan for the coming year is to become a student of healthy living. I want to go with the mind, body and spirit route....because South Beach and Weight Watchers haven't done squat for me. You can follow my progress at Fat Mommy to Hot new blog venture!


  1. Amen sister!

    All women need massage as part of their healthcare!

  2. Hooray!

    I need to become a hot mommy too I'm looking forward to reading the new blog!

  3. It sounds like you have a great plan put together! I hope it goes well for you!

  4. I'm so happy to hear that you're making changes for the better! I am so keeping up with your new blog!

    You go girl!

  5. How exciting! You totally deserve it Connie! What a great thing! I will go on over.


  6. I'm sending over my bottle of vodka. Sounds like you need it!!

  7. Awesome, I know you can make it happen.

  8. For the sake of our children as well as ourselves, though, I think it's really important to remember that fat mommy and hot mommy don't need to be separate things. I'm all for eating healthy and exercising - and I am in COMPLETE agreement that taking the time for pampering is important. But I know that not everyone's body is meant to be thin and that's really really ok and we need our young girls - and boys - to know this through our example. That people are shaped differently. And that "hot" comes in all shapes and sizes.

    That being said, I DO wish you luck in your new endeavors!

  9. You totally deserve to win this. I mean you're an awesome blogger with a fabulous sense of humor and you're also a dedicated and devoted Mom who could relate to the Sego Lily customers. (I know because I am one, LOVE Sego Lily!)

  10. OMGoodness! If anyone deserves this it's Connie. Her blogs are where I go for my daily smile and sometimes snorting laugh. She is an incredible Mommy - always coming up with super cool ideas for things to do with her kiddos. Also, my mother (who has no idea who Connie is) refers to her as "my funny friend" because I am always sharing her great jokes, emails and stories!

    Good luck Connie!!!!

  11. Comment posted my friend. Now I'm going to have to get serious about the whole body thing instead of hoping it will resolve itself. FYI: at 40, it's never going to resolve itself.

    Do your thing Girl! Keep me posted.


  12. You absolutely do deserve these wonderful things for yourself! Vodka Mom seems to be onto something "feel good" too. Good luck with your Mom-ME plans and hi from SITS!

  13. Great idea. Stopping by from SITS!

  14. Good for you Connie for taking care of yourself! You really deserve this! Every mom needs a little tlc because we are the rock of our families and do so much that we should all take a little time for ourselves to rejuvinate.
    You are a great mommy, wife, and friend! You have a way of touching people through your words whether it's to inspire, teach or make someone laugh..a LOT!

  15. Dear Sego Lily,

    Anyone who doesn't pick this gem of a blogger is CRAZY!

    Amy in OHio

  16. That is great! Where do we leave the comment because you would be wonderful:)

  17. You just convinced me I need to go there...I might need a plane ticket with my appt. Sounds pretty good.

  18. Dear Sego Lily,

    Passing over Connie for this contest is illegal in 48 states and I'm pretty sure Utah is one of them ;)

    Connie is a fantastic blogger and she would become walking billboard for your wonderful spa if she's given the opportunity.

    if you're looking for someone who will greatly benefit from the services you offer AND someone who will generate a lot of buzz for your business...then you need Connie!

    She's so giving and she's a wonderful friend.

    Puh-lease seriously consider her for your contest. You won't be disappointed. I pinky swear!


  19. We only ever get one mom! Mom is the end all and be all for her kids and deserves to be pampered and have a few minutes to herself to just breathe deep and think about how lucky she is!

    What a better way than to be pampered at the spa ... if mom is happy and healthy the family will follow suit!

    As much as my hubby is our rock... mom is the heart of the family! Take care of mom and cherish her!

    What an awesome blog Connie and it will hit the heart of anyone... we all have mothers!

    Way to go! I'm bookmarking this blog too to keep up with it as well as your others!! :)

    Always a pleasure!

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  21. You absolutely deserve the opportunity to seize the moment! I hope you get the gig, I can't wait to follow you along on your journey. Have you considered 30 day Shred? It's a 20 minute work out, email me if you have any questions!


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