Wednesday, April 1, 2009

The Choices We Make...

Three years ago yesterday I was 8 months pregnant with Alex and just 3 weeks away from my due date. I had just finished eating my lunch in the kitchen when I heard the front door was Calvin.

I was shocked to see him because he worked in South Denver and never came home for lunch. He informed me that he had just been let go from his job. A job that he had held for 7 years. It was so unexpected and I was so scared.

Yesterday, I spent the day in fear that it was going to happen again. Calvin's company was laying people off and we didn't know how it was going to go. I spent the morning praying, eating poptarts and sending messages back and forth with my friend Monica while we waited for word from our husbands. It was torture! Finally, we both heard the good news that their jobs were safe...for now. Later, I found out that Calvin was on the list but a supervisor that believes in him, fought for him and his job was saved. I ran to twitter and stated my relief and thanked Baby Jesus. Jesus (on twitter) responded and said 'you're welcome'! LOL! Did you know Jesus was on twitter?

Calvin and I had just been talking the other day about how important the choices we make are. Of course it's impossible to know all the time, which ones will be bad and which one's we will live to regret but making an informed decision is crucial.

I still question if moving to Utah was a good choice. At the time, there didn't seem like we had any choice....Calvin had been without a job for 5 months and we were pregnant again. We had to do what was right for our family.

And I guess really...that's the only choice there is to make. We are determined to give our kids a great life....a life that is better than what we had. We work together to make their days special and their lives happy. We are teaching them while looking for their strengths and interests and encouraging them. And someday we will motivate them to follow their matter what they may be. They will leave home and if we did our job correctly they will succeed and have families of their own.

There is an old joke about having children so that there is someone to care for you in your old age. I'm convinced that is why Calvin married me, he wanted a young wife to change his diapers! Many of the choices we make as a couple are to ensure that we are never a burden on Alex and Mallory. It is bewildering to me when people make poor decisions and then expect to be bailed out. But that is the kind of atmosphere we live in now days isn't it? Do whatever the hell you want and someone will rescue you.....

At the end of the day, it's all about the choices we make and how we take responsibility for them.


  1. Wow, I didn't Jesus was on Twitter! I'm going to have to follow him.

    Great post Connie, very eloquent.

  2. I agree with you. Everyone loves to have someone to blame - it's easier to play the victim, than to it is to take responsibility for your choices. Nice post, Connie... and congratulations on Calvin's job being spared.

  3. Glad you got the good news. I'm such a creature of habit, I'd be terrified to pick up and move a state away! Oh & on Jesus, I'm not surprised he's based out of SLC. Maybe you should take him to lunch, bread & wine?

  4. You mean I have to take responsibility? I thought it was all about entitlement. ;)

    Wow- Jesus on Twitter! Now who needs the Bible?

  5. Oh Connie! I am so glad that everything is okay. And for your friend too!

    I guess I need to get with the Twitter program so I can keep up with what's happening with everyone. Maybe now that I know that Jesus is on Twitter too, I can get with the 21st century!


  6. I am so thankful his job is safe. And no - I had no idea Jesus was on twitter. I need to get over there more often!

  7. Wow, I need me some Jesus tweets. Talk about answered prayers.

    Anyways, great post! I'm glad your husband still has a job. It reminds me of a great anonymous quote:

    It will all be okay in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end.

    You guys are smart, you'll work it out.

  8. Great post.
    I question our choices everyday, esp our most recent choice to move.


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