Monday, June 4, 2012

What I Learned In Kindergarten

1. Not Everyone Will Want To Be Your Friend.

I thought I was getting 19 new friends at the beginning of the school year.  I was friendly, learned everyone's names and which kid they belonged with.  After a few months, people that clicked....gravitated to each other and others didn't. Also, not every child will want to be your kids friend for the same reasons.  It's okay!  Be advised that if you report to the teacher that your kid is being written on with a dry erase marker and picked on in class that the child's mother will stop talking to you and liking anything you have to say on Facebook.

2. Some People Will Be Your Friend For The Wrong Reason.

Not to sound like an episode of The Bachelor, but if someone is feeding you information about your teacher that is negative and keeps calling you under the guise of being friends.  They have an agenda.  I didn't realize this until it was too late.

3. Standing Up for What You Believe is Right...Is Always a Good Idea.

Even if it means some people (see #2) won't like you or talk to you anymore.  Don't be afraid to speak up if someone is being wronged.  Your opinion is so very important and the administration appreciates it.

4. PTA is Awesome!

If you are a parent that likes to be in the middle of the action and you have any skills, join PTA!  Being a part of a group that has good intentions is a wonderful feeling. Side note: Have your husband join never know when you'll need to vote on something important.

5. Volunteering in the Classroom is Fun!

I was nervous at first and fretted over my outfits because I wanted the teacher to like me but it was all fine.  Watching your kid interact with his friends in class and soaking up information like a sponge is a joy to behold.  Also, teachers LOVE volunteers.  Unless of course, you just want to sit in the back of the room taking notes.  This is strongly discouraged!

6. Having Cocktails with Fellow Kinder Moms is Therapy.

Get together with each other.  At the park with the kids, at PTA, at a bar after the kids are in bed.  You are all in this together and when it's over you'll be as tight as people that have been in a war or jail together.

7.  The Teacher Doesn't Want to be Your BFF.

This was a tough one for me.  But....she's busy with 20 or more children and she has friends of her own and a family and doesn't have time for a new BFF.  It's okay.

8. Field Day is The Best Day of The Year!

At the continuation ceremony for both half day classes.....many of the kids said that Field Day was their favorite part of Kindergarten.  It made me soooo happy because I was the coordinator!  I'm so thrilled that I contributed to their school year and they were happy.

9.  Kindergarten is Expensive.

I tracked our expenses on a spreadsheet and we spent $700.  Between school supplies, yearbooks, school pictures, field trips, teacher gifts, scholastic book orders, PTA dues and the Science all adds up!

10.  Sometimes You Need A Do Over.

Kindergarten is not what it used to be.  There are no naps or snacks and your kid will work HARD! The problem is that they are still starting kids at 5 years old but the curriculum has advanced.  If your child was not fully ready, this is the perfect time to start again.  It's a proven fact that 6 year old (boys) do better in Kindergarten.  We decided we'd rather re-start the school process so that Alex could fully master all he needs to know to continue on, rather than struggle for the rest of his school career.  It was a hard choice to make, and we're sad that he won't be with his friends but it was the right thing to do for him.



  1. This is a really great post for all moms out there. I think you should totally repost this again when school is starting back.

  2. Wait. Did you say no naps and snacks?

    That was my only reason for going to kindergarten back in the day.

    Well, that and that cute boy Scott who used to give me his applesauce.

  3. love the tupac quote! and kindergarten mom cocktails? I want to go to that school! seriously if the moms at my girls school don't do it- I will institute that myself :)

  4. Amen! :) Love everything you said. It sounds like little Mr. wasn't the only one who learned a thing or two this year. Both my brother and sister started school when they were six, so did my brother-in-law, and about half the children I know in our community. When we took Sierra out to homeschool, her teacher highly recommended we try her again the following year {her birthday is the end of August, so she had juuuust turned 5 when school started}. We fell in love with homeschooling, but had we not, we definitely would've waited a year. That extra year is so beneficial.

  5. Great post! I'm bookmarking it and sendibg myself an email to reread this just before RJ starts school. Those are good insights.

    Love the Tupac quote too!

  6. Great post! I'm bookmarking it and sendibg myself an email to reread this just before RJ starts school. Those are good insights.

    Love the Tupac quote too!

  7. Great post! I'm bookmarking it and sendibg myself an email to reread this just before RJ starts school. Those are good insights.

    Love the Tupac quote too!

  8. Who knew I'd ever love a quote from Tupac so much?!
    You are so wise, you've learned a lot and some of those things I needed to hear again.
    It's always hard as an adult to realize that people are still assholes.

  9. I have my youngest starting K in the fall - I'm happy and sad at the same time. No surprises though b/c it's my second child going through the same school. So true about the drinks and therapy!

  10. Thank you for this post. My son will start Kindergarten next year and I don't know if he will be ready. I mean emotionally probably but I don't know scholastically if he can keep up. I guess the only thing for me to do is see??

  11. love this post but now i want my son to be in kindergarten again instead becoming a 7th grader in 4days. Oh and way to Alex he totally rocks for surviving kindergarten and I bet he will be the coolest kid next year because he'll already know the ropes . give him a hug for me and tell him how proud of him I am.

  12. With all of these lessons learned, you will totally rock it out next year!

  13. I agree with Stacie up there! Alex will be better prepared, and so will you!

    Why did you have to calculate the cost of expenses for the year?? I've often wondered how much we spent each year on school expenses like supplies, field trips, fundraiser donations, etc, but I was scared to calculate it. I bet $700 is close to what we spend every year. Yikes. This is why they say public school isn't truly free. ;o)

  14. You had a tough year that didn't meet up to your expectations - but that is ok - when does life anyway?

    You handled everything with grace & dignity and I was so very proud of the way you handled every situation!!!

  15. Yes, so true with boys needing to be older. Might as well set them up to like school and do good from the start.

    I wish I could volunteer-- I really need my mom to live by me so she can watch Ryder while I volunteer

  16. I LOVE this list and how it applies equally to moms and our kids. I didn't realize until this year that I'd be going through school again as a parent!


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