Friday, February 27, 2009

Something More...

**warning**
This post contains lots of run on sentences.

You know how sometimes you are just going along, day after day and you think your life is going well. I mean, your days do kind of run together and if LOST didn't come on in the middle of the week you might not know what day it was but you are pretty happy and don't really have any complaints.

And then someone says something to you and upsets your little apple cart and you take a look at your life and how you are living it and you realize that you have been wearing the same black sweat pants for a week and you can't remember the last time you shaved your legs.


I wrote last week about what my husband said to me.

Don't be a slave to the TV and get out and live your life.

I don't know why but it has really been bothering me. I thought I was living my life. I thought taking care of the kids and house and husband is what my life consists of. I don't often take time for myself....every two weeks I go grocery shopping alone and I take a hot bath with a glass of wine once a week...but I don't ever really do anything FOR ME. For one thing, I hate to leave the kids. I know Calvin can handle it but I feel like I am imposing on him. Isn't that strange?

They are his kids too....so it shouldn't be a big deal for me to go off and Live My Life. Frankly, at the end of a weekday after dinner is eaten and kids are put to bed...I'm exhausted and all I want to do is relax. I can't really imagine going out at 8 o'clock at night for fear of falling asleep somewhere and having the po po call Calvin to retrieve me from wherever I went in search of my life.

The moral of this story is that I am going to TRY to find some things to do for me! Going to the movies with Monica was so much fun and I love movies, so maybe more of that. I desperately want to meet my friend Chrisy in Salt Lake City for lunch and I want to make plans to meet Jen at IKEA. And I really want to go back to Cache Valley and meet Jess! OH and I really really need to go to the dentist.

So, what I am trying to say is....Big Papa....get ready to take care of the kids because Mamas making plans!

EDITED: I have a date with Chrisy in Salt Lake City tomorrow! We are going here for lunch and a glass of wine! I am so excited!!

13 comments:

  1. You go, Connie!! I could use some of the same so we'll have to meet up again in March!

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  2. I know just what you mean. I never go do anything, and if I do, I usually feel a little guilty about it. The only thing I really do for myself right now is record Y&R and watch it at night with glass of wine after everyone goes to bed. I have been trying to go have lunch with an old friend of mine for weeks but something always comes up. Why do we as mothers fall into this way of life? It's just not healthy for us! You Go Girl! Get out there and have some fun!

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  3. We're going to talk about this more tomorrow... AT LUNCH! Can't wait, Connie! I have so many thoughts and opinions on this subject. We'll chat, and I'm drinkin' wine with lunch. (Just so you know.)

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  4. Good for you! It's important to have something in your life that's just for you (not the husband, not the kids). But I really do identify with not liking to be away from the kids. I feel like mine need me so much - the idea of them asking for me and me not being there...I'm not ready to go there. But then again - I work and they are in daycare all day - so I really do want to spend my evenings and weekends with them.

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  5. Good for you! I'm just sorry I'm on the other side of the country and can't get out with you.

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  6. It's really a shame that he was just blowing smoke up your ass...

    I still think you need to live your life, regardless of what the hubby says.
    Either that, or live your lives together once a week.

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  7. Definitely schedule some you time. Lots of it. I love the dentist, an excuse for two hours of quiet. That might be sad.

    Have fun tomorrow.

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  8. I have always been of the philosophy that I will not stop having a life just because I gave one to another human being

    go, go, go.

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  9. Thanks to everyone for their support! It turns out that my husband's comment may not have been sincere and I'm meeting some resistance to my desire to do some things for myself.

    I'm determined to turn this around because I think it makes me a better mom!

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  10. Good for you Connie!!! You are at a busy stage of life with your young kids. Sometimes it is hard to get any alone time when they are so small. I think it's great that you are getting out and doing things. Let me know when you want to meet up at IKEA - I am up for it almost any time!

    XOXOXOXO
    Jen

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  11. Go Mom! I need to take this advice...I never get out. I am going to Blogher, but that is so far away:)

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  12. Great for you! I can totally empathize with the feeling guilty for "imposing" by leaving the kids with the husband. Then, I also feel incredibly guilty since I work and don't get those precious hours with the boys! Never ending battle!

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  13. Yeah, You! I so completely and 100% know where you're coming from. I'll be on that list, too if my husband ever makes our travel arrangements. LOL!

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