Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Pieces of Robert

I feel like I need to apologize for all of these sad posts.  You guys know I'm an upbeat and fun loving gal but this pain and grief is weighing on me...hard.  Please don't leave me....I'm sure I'll be back to the funny soon.  In fact, I've got a funny story about the funeral if you can believe that.  Of course you can...it's me we're talking about here.

My kitchen and living room are full of Robert's things.  Keith brought another load home last night and now I'll have little touches of Robert everywhere.  His beautiful cat has adopted me...funny how that works and I'm now his person.  I think he sees the resemblance to Rob in Keith and stares him down hoping to hear his voice.

Meet André

I have another story for you.  This one makes my heart happy.  One of Robert's closest friends is Ron.  Ron is 69 years old and has spent his whole life on the stage!  In face, he choreographed the last play that Robert and I saw together last November.  Two days before he died Rob asked Ron to make him a new bracelet with red in it.  Ron finished the bracelet 15 minutes before he got the call about Robert.

On Sunday, when we were packing up Rob's house....Ron came up to Keith and put the bracelet on him and told him that it was meant for Robert. Keith, who is not a friendship bracelet kind of guy...is wearing it proudly!

Keith is back to work today and we're trying to return to our normal lives.  I still can't believe Robert is gone and feel like he could call me at any moment and make me laugh. What I do know, is that his spirit lives on....and that makes me happy!


  1. I was hoping there would be a great story behind that friendship bracelet. And you did not disappoint!

    Still so heartbroken for you all. Figuring out a new normal will not be easy.

    I like that you're posting what you know-- funny is good, but sad is real too.

    Love you!

    1. Thank you for understanding. In a way, this blog is therapy for me. Love you too!

  2. I've been meaning to drop a card in the mail to you (Bobbi gave me your addy) but haven't made it to the store so wanted to tell you how sorry I am for what you guys have gone through. He sounds like he was an amazing BIL and it's clear how much you loved him. I've been sending prayers from Texas for you, Keith and the kids to find comfort in such a tough time. XOXO

  3. No need to ever apologize. You're in a situation we've either been in or will be in later, and you'll be right there for us.

    Thank you for sharing such sweet stories of Robert. There is something very feel-good knowing that you are introducing every one to him. That's the best way to keep his memory alive.

    And I'm thrilled to know a little about him with each blog of yours I read.

  4. Hey - you don't have to apologize for that. Life is life. You don't have to make it all funny, especially when it's not!

    Andre looks so fluffy! I'm so glad ya'll are giving him a good home!

  5. Oh Connie, I am so sorry. I don't think anyone ever truly knows what another person is going through, but after our loss last year, I know so much about the pain. And I can especially relate to your position because you have lost someone you love, but you are also trying to "be there" for your husband who has lost his brother. It's such an enormous responsibility. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Love to you.

  6. I'm so sorry for your loss. (words never seem enough in these moments)


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