Thursday, July 11, 2013

Waiting to Exhale

My sister is on her way.

She was the first person I called after I heard the news about Robert and she immediately cancelled her plans for the week and jumped in her car to drive to Denver.  I feel like I'm holding my breath waiting for her to get here.

Keith and his family are making the funeral arrangements this afternoon and I've been tasked with making a slideshow of pictures and writing the obituary.  I don't know who has the tougher job.

So many memories have come rushing back to me.  Robert has been such a huge part of my life from the day I met him.  We became immediate friends!  He helped pick out the ugly furniture for our house, he helped plan my wedding, he planned and hosted my baby shower and brought Alex a stuffed animal the day he was born.  He took care of Alex and Mallory for the first time so that Keith and I could go to Vegas for a weekend, he was there for Alex's first day of Kindergarten, he photographed Field Day at school and he was there for the kids' singing performance at Barnes and Noble.

How do we go on without him?

He was supposed to be my back up.  He called himself my brother husband and said that if Keith died he'd marry me and help raise my kids.  I feel like I've lost my best friend.

We had so much fun together and so much of it is here on this blog.  Many of you have messaged me with so many kind words and thoughts for my family and you felt like you knew Robert because of what I shared with you.

I'm so glad that I'll always have these memories of my Adventures with Robert here to enjoy.


  1. Oh, honey.....what a hard task you have before you, but you are so talented and you love Robert so much, you'll do a fantastic job. Plus back-up is on the way!

    Sending you virtual {{{{{hugs}}}}} and real prayers,

  2. These Adventures with Robert are a nice tribute. Thanks for putting them together for us, Connie.

  3. This is just such a tragedy to lose him so young. Reminds us all to live each day to the fullest.

  4. Hang in there, sister. You got lots of love and support from afar. We're all there with you in spirit.

  5. It's difficult losing a loved one, but losing someone before their time is even more difficult. Big hugs. I hate that you're going through this. Prayers for strength and comfort in the days to come as you say goodbye to Robert's earthly presence.

  6. I just came across your blog through my friend, Jennifer and I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss. Much love and prayers to you and your family.

  7. Praying for your family, I am so so sorry for your loss.

  8. So sorry, still lifting you up in prayers.

  9. What a great picture of Robert! You are definitely the right person to be tasked with appropriately representing him in pictures and words.

    I wish I had some words of comfort for you, but I've never been very good at that. I'll pray for strength for you and your family instead. Love you!

  10. I have no doubt you will do Robert justice with the slideshow & obituary. My heart hurts for what you're all going through right now. It's a pain that nobody can ease, but trust that it will get better in the months to come, and your memories of your brother-in-law will carry you through.

  11. So sorry to hear about your loss Connie - you made it very apparent on your blog how important Robert was to all of you. Sending lots of love your way.

  12. I am so sorry for your family's loss.


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